Dead ends
When you finally take the time to go through the strenuous process of doing your hair, from de-tangling to shampooing, to masking, then conditioning, and blow drying and low heat straightening, you’re exhausted. Finished. Done. You look at your hair in awe because you did that! You notice the growth, and how healthy it is. You love the growth and you highlight it with before and after pictures. Once you look closely you realize how split your ends are and how dead they look. However, since you’ve gone through this horrific process of getting your beautiful tight curls to a straightened pattern, you’re tired, and you also don’t want to dismiss all the growth that you’ve achieved in the past few months. So, you keep the dead ends in place and you style your hair only for it to fall and frizz the very next day. As you’re brushing through your hair you experience tangling and popping causing pain that you wouldn’t have experienced had you cut the dead ends anyway. You prolonged the very thing you knew would make your hair better, because it helped it appeared to be longer. Except, the dead ends took away from the overall health of your mane and you’re left with another day of facing what seems to be common sense questions, “Do I cut them or do I keep them and continue to endure the struggles that they keep causing for me? After all, my hair won’t lay completely straight, when I go through and brush or comb my hair it’s popping like rubber bands, and even when I try to pin it up the ends still manage to show through a perfectly pinned bun. Then it happens, you’re tired you’re left with only one reasonable option and that’s to get rid of them. What you thought appeared to add more length and beauty, only turned out to add unnecessary stress and pain.
Isn’t this how we see things, people or circumstances in life? Even when we know things are dead we still want to hold onto them anyway because if we don’t, we live in fear of what life without the dead ends will reveal. We try to make things work out the very way we think they should, or we pressure or push agendas that aren’t even aligning with our purpose and who we are called to be. Then we are left stressed, trying to comb through and manage extra battles that we never were even meant to go through, but because we chose to keep the dead ends, we had to endure the consequences that came along with them. I’ve been there, and sometimes I find myself there again and again; but what I realize is that the more I hold onto the dead ends the less growth I’ll experience in the next phase of my being. If I try to bring dead ends into my new season, then it makes my new season appear to be one that I wasn’t meant to go through or reach. When the truth is that the dead ends should’ve been cut off a long time ago and shouldn’t have entered my new season to begin with. They can’t grow with me in my new season and they surely can’t help me reap new benefits. So if you’re struggling with situations, circumstances, or people that keep leading you to dead ends, chances are, it’s time to cut them off babe; and if you’re really holding onto dead ends with the intentions of revealing your hair growth goals, guilty as charged, Sis get rid of them. They’re not worth the headache or the pain! Peace. Love. Blessings!
